Here’s what I’m not going to do.

I’m not going to sit here and pretend like I know anything.  I am not going to preach at you about what you need to do or how you should be feeling.  I’m not going to tell you about the future state of the world and I’m not going to dismiss your feelings, no matter what they are, as they arise.  I am not an expert on anything besides trauma and napping (seriously though, napping is amazing for me right now in these times) which are obviously incredibly important in these times but not the point of what I’m writing. However, what I know most about supporting folks with trauma (which is most people), is that giving advice and putting myself on a pedestal as some important person you need to listen to is the exact opposite of what feels soothing and supportive and creating a safe place and connection for others.  And to be honest, that would be me taking advantage and conveniently stepping into a power role that I do not own, nor do I want. That would be a re-perpetuation of trauma. I’m not an expert in viruses or finances or politics and while I understand that it’s important to be informed and to make wise choices based on that information, IT IS NOT MY ROLE AS A COACH OR A PSYCHOTHERAPIST OR MEDITATION TEACHER TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO OR HOW TO FEEL.  

Here’s what I can do though.  I can sit by your side and we can create some space together for whatever you’re feeling.  EVERYTHING you’re feeling is important. EVERYTHING you’re feeling matters. And EVERYTHING you’re feeling is welcome with me.  I can care deeply about you and help guide you home into yourself and your body and your own highest wisdom so that whatever is here can be truly honored and listened to.  I can cry with you and get angry with you and talk about netflix with you and talk about the weather and celebrate your new baby because I know that your life is happening right here and right now and I want to be here with you in that.

What I can do is hold the belief that you are doing the absolute best that you can do in every moment and that you are coping in the ways that you learned and there is something remarkable about this.  There is something so fascinating and beautiful about how you are showing up right now amidst these big times. There is something that MAKES SENSE about how you are feeling and choosing to live each day right now.  And I want to be there for that.So, while I won’t give you advice, I am fully available to you with my presence and my deep heart.  I am WITH you as you navigate the ebbs and flows of each day and I am grateful that we are connected.

Some things that I do know is that all things are impermanent and everything arises and passes and the more I can allow myself to feel the uncertainty and unknowing in the impermanence, the closer I am to freedom within myself.  The more I can meet each moment with as much kindness and gentleness and curiosity as possible… the more I notice my resilience grows and the storms are easier to weather. Yes, it is easier said than done for sure and for me… being with the discomfort in myself around being with the unknown feels much better than trying to control everything by pretending like I know anything.  So this is my commitment to you… I am here for this unknown and the uncertainty with an open heart and want you to know you’re welcome to reach out and write a paragraph or two to just let me know what’s present for you today. I am here.