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Healing that’s skilled, gentle, compassionate and kind - inviting you to do less, with greater results.

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Working with me is…

Radically Effective

With a skilled and seamless weave of nervous system regulation and co-regulation support, somatic practices, attachment theory, and trauma-informed mindfulness, the results you receive working in this way often happen faster than if you were to spend months or years in talk therapy.

Complex and developmental trauma happen in relationship - healing happens in relationship too. In the relationship of holding and support that you and I cultivate, and in the new relationship you begin to form with yourself. Here you get to fully rest into support with all parts of yourself welcome.

You’ve likely already been showing up for your healing and growth for decades - this will help you integrate all the awareness and healing you have already tended to, as well as move you forward to be able to fully BE who you know you truly are.

Gentle

Here’s the thing I want everyone to hear: healing and growth can be gentle. In fact, healing work is the most effective and the most sustainable - for the rest of your life - when it respects the pace of your body and your nervous system.

Pushing through pain - be it physical, emotional or spiritual, growing thicker skin, gritting your teeth and trying harder: that’s what the world conditions sensitive people to do in order to survive.

But that kind of effort is not required in order to heal. Read this again: healing and growth can (and I believe should) be gentle. It’s time to stop working so damn hard.

FiercelyCompassionate

When you and I sit together, there is nothing to be figured out, and you do not need to be fixed. Yes, things may need tending but not because there’s anything wrong with you. You are whole already.

It’s this attitude of acceptance and permission that helps you remember your essence and claim who you are, what you want and where you’re headed in a compassionate, deep and sustainable way.

We find the sweet spot just for you and your unique path - a path that is steady and supportive. All parts of you are welcome here - the hurt parts, the tired parts, the dark parts, the hopeful parts, the highly competent parts, your humor and your humanity and your shining soul.

Kind

Healing is a collaboration and a partnership in this work. We show up together to support what YOU would love to have happen in your life. We meet all that arises with support, awareness, compassion and care. And when you have a hard time finding that in yourself, I’ve got plenty for both of us - there’s space here for you to lean in.

You might find that while this work might bring up challenges for us to meet together, it’s also deeply kind.

Trauma and significant stressful experiences create broken connections in health, relationships, work, spirituality… and especially in our relationships to ourselves.
With the kind of care you receive with me - co-regulating somatic work - we reweave those connections to create a new, resilient foundation and sturdy sense of self that:

gives you back your health
helps you breathe and move and sleep more easily
re-connects you to your purpose, goals and desires
brings you into new relationship with the pains and pleasures you carry
helps you take up nourishment in body, mind and soul
offers you choice and helps you advocate for what you want and need - it shows you the strength of your boundaries and helps you feel powerful enough to use them.

reminds you of your worthiness and belonging

brings you home to yourself and your body
helps you be more genuine and stand more fully in who you are
repairs your heavy heart and helps it soften
gives you the ‘more’ that you’ve been wanting in ways you never knew were possible
grows your capacity to meet life’s ups and downs with a solid sense of steadiness, peace and ease

So, what might a session look like?

Although I am trained in many different modalities, and bring parts of all of them to our work together, it’s my work as a Transforming Touch Practitioner that I’ve found to be the most effective. This is advanced nervous system regulation work - it works directly with your body/mind connection, supporting various systems in your body to allow them to heal at the deepest levels.

This connecting, gentle and present work can include:

Being welcome to bring all parts of yourself.
Trauma informed mindfulness and breathing practices.

Working with “intentional touch” in online sessions and “supportive touch” if we meet in person. Both are equally powerful.
Sharing your stories, feelings & thoughts and experiences as they arise

You talking or being silent depending on what feels most alive for you each session.

Slowing down together to meet what’s present in your life.
Being guided consistently for most or all of each session through the body-based and co-regulation protocol.

In addition, you will receive access to Nurtured Heart - a growing library of bite size teaching videos and somatic practices you can download and use as feels good to support our work together.

Book a call with me

Not ready to book a call just yet, but have some questions? Send me an email, and I’ll get back to you within a few days.

It’s normal and very welcome to have concerns or hesitations when you’re considering a new therapist or a new way of working.

It makes sense to carefully consider whether this kind of work and working with me feels right for you. Healing happens best when the relationship between us feels steady, supportive and kind - and so it’s important to feel comfortable enough to build that kind of trust together.

There are a few common concerns that pop up - I’ll speak to those here, and if there are any additional questions you have, please know they are very welcome. Send me an email and I’ll get back to you.

I hear you — it’s natural to feel hesitant, especially if you've tried many approaches before without seeing lasting results. It can be daunting to invest again, hoping this time will be different.
The decision is ultimately yours, but I invite you to schedule a no-pressure consultation (or two) to explore if this approach feels right for you. This work has been highly effective for many clients dealing with complex trauma, and it may be the step that leads to meaningful change.

After personally working with thousands of individuals over the past two decades, I offer work in this way because I have experienced it as most effective.
It's completely understandable to feel uncertain. In a world that keeps us in our heads, exploring the body and nervous system can feel unfamiliar or even intimidating, especially if it's been a place of discomfort in the past. While I can’t predict exactly what will come up, I can assure you that we will approach it together, slowly and at a pace that feels manageable. I’ll be with you every step of the way.

Here are a few client stories about how it feels to work with me:

I feel beyond fortunate to have been a recipient of Shelby’s incredible gifts. I have never met someone who is SO present and able to take people as deep as they are ready to go. The first time I worked with her I was in disbelief at how she was able to hold space for me to help me come to my deepest truths.

The word that comes to mind when I think of working with Shelby is nourished. She has an ability in every session to help my mind, body and soul feel so held and so filled up with love, that it makes even going through the toughest darkest stuff, actually somewhat pleasurable.

Shelby is also an incredible educator and I always feel like there is something I learn from her whenever I work with her. Please do your heart and soul a favor and work with this incredible woman.

-B.H. - Encenitas, California

I turned to Shelby for coaching at a time when I felt incredibly vulnerable. A huge issue from my past that I thought I had healed from had reared its head again, and I felt shame, alone and not sure if I could belong. Shelby held me with such incredible tenderness and compassion, and I felt 100% seen and heard in all of my pain, but also in all of my aliveness.

Through my work with Shelby I took back my power, and had the courage to speak my truth. The work with Shelby continued to vibrate and unfold in me long after the sessions finished - I went from a hot wavering mess to feeling strong and vibrant. I feel very blessed to have experienced the power, wisdom and gentleness of Shelby’s presence and skills and, as a coach myself, I truly appreciate Shelby as one of the very, very best.

-S.J. - Melbourne, Australia

Shelby is utterly present during sessions and a true master at what she does. She cares deeply for her clients, and it shows. As a result of working with her, I've been able to move forward in situations where I've previously felt stuck, and experienced the huge relief and permission to not have to be perfect!

I've experienced a deep, profound connection to myself, in Shelby's presence. If you have a chance to work with Shelby, I highly, highly recommend it. Thank you Shelby, for being such a loving, gifted, dedicated and passionate practitioner.

-R.D London, UK

I believe in transparency and want you to feel fully informed and ready when we meet—no hidden prices, no pressure to commit if it’s not a full yes for you. I want you to approach this conversation with ease, not with dread or uncertainty.

With that in mind, here’s what you can expect when working with me.

The investment is $250/session and a sliding scale may be available upon request.
This approach often yields faster, deeper results compared to long-term talk therapy which can sometimes be re-traumatizing or talk you around in circles gaining awareness but not deep and sustainable change; or more intensive coaching programs, which can sometimes push too fast and result in burnout. Our focus is on finding a balanced, steady pace that supports your nervous system and unique needs, creating lasting shifts that you can feel in your bones and see in your life.
You’ll also receive access to Nurtured Heart—a growing library of short teaching videos and somatic practices to support our work together.
Sessions are 60 minutes on Zoom. We meet weekly during the first three weeks of each month (I take time off the last week of each month - this is part of how I care for myself so I can be fully present with you).
This work is here to support you whole-heartedly.
Some people enjoy the ongoing support and stay for years and others find meeting regularly for an initial 4 months to be enough nourishment to take with them for a lifetime.
Some come and go over the years. Up to you and what feels ultimately MOST loving and supportive for YOU and your nervous system and process.

We can have a free intro call if it speaks to you and create a way of working together that fits just right for what you’re needing right now. Whether one session or one season or many. I’m here for and with you.
If it feels like a great fit after our conversation, and you're ready to move forward, we’ll choose a start date and set a consistent time to meet.
I’ll send you an intro form with details on confidentiality and session info, followed by an invoice for your first month and an intake form to help guide our work together.
If there’s a waitlist, I’ll let you know your place and the estimated wait time.
Then, we begin!