Before you click away, hear me out...
Transformation refers to change and I need you to know that there’s NOTHING wrong with the way you are right now.
You’ve landed on this page for a reason. It’s no coincidence or random occurrence.
You’ve probably been through a lot.
And yes, you know not everyone’s “a lot” looks the same.
You’re not one to complain, your glass is half full, and you want to spread more of your positive vibes through the world. But to do so, there’s some work you have to do.
That work, is called healing (AKA embodiment, growth, integration). And it doesn’t mean that you did anything wrong so far. It means that you’re in a place NOW where you’re ready to look more deeply at who you are, what you want, and where you can build more connection with yourself so you can more deeply serve the world.
I’m Shelby Leigh, and you, my dear, are in the right place.
You see, you and me are a lot alike.
Like most healers and feelers, I have a wounds of my own that had the best of me for years.
I’m not going to sit here and tell you that the trauma you carry is a gift and that you’re going to be grateful for it at some point because while I DO believe that’s true, it’s not something anyone can tell you. It’s a declaration that only you can make when and if you’re ready.
Believe it or not, I did not come out of the womb as an enlivened and inspired coach, teacher, and mentor. (Wait, actually I kind of did…. That’s what babies are, right? I digress…)
My journey has its own ups and downs which you’ll one day read about in my best selling book but for now, I’ll tell you this. I became who I am today through a ton of dead end roads, crappy coping mechanisms (drugs, alcohol, unhealthy relationships), a ton of trauma, and a hefty dose of Complex PTSD. I’ve struggled with massive anxiety, wondered if my life was worth living, and felt like the world was nothing but critical and harsh towards me. I believed that healing was possible for everyone else except for me. My most experienced feeling for years was shame.
My turning point was when I discovered Buddhism and meditation. My teachers, that class, the whole experience… I would not be who I am today, heck, I may not even be alive right now, if I hadn’t had that experience.
It helped me heal in ways that I didn’t know I could. It was an entryway into a world of self soothing, presence, and a calm that I didn’t know even existed. It taught be how to be and led be down the path of becoming who I am.
Deep, right? I know, I know.
Once I was deep in the work, I wanted to become a teacher. The thing was, I was 24 and while I knew a lot, I also didn’t know a lot. So, I decided to go even deeper.
I got my coaching degree, then a somatic psychotherapy degree, got another coaching certification in Sex, Love & Relationships, went deep into mindfulness, tantra, and sensuality (which I use in my work and life everyday), started working with clients and realized omg I really love this and was awed to see how effective it was. Through the trauma I carry, I found my gifts and am able to support people through the full spectrum of the human experience. Seriously… the FULL spectrum.
I work with people in a variety of ways helping them heal so they can heal others by using my psychotherapy background with the motivation that we’re navigating trauma in a way that doesn’t inflict more harm. This includes my reverence for attachment theory… so if you’re a nerd for that… let’s talk.
You should also know, I’m deeply devoted to inclusivity and feel that it’s incredibly important that we create more cultural sensitivity, inclusivity and awareness FOR minority populations as coaches and teachers.
Different populations/cultural orientations need different types of awareness, care, and welcomeness in particular ways. Part of my mission, as a white cis female identified queer woman, coach, and teacher is to continually check and positively utilize my privilege, continue learning, and offer support to a diverse population. My intention is to unpack the nuanced nature of these realms and in regards to teaching, shed light on educating you to make sure all of your clients feel safe enough in your presence and in your classes.
I’m here to help people be more of themselves so they can heal their wounds and the world.
Past Senior Teacher at the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality supporting Sex, Love, Relationship Coaches in Training in the art of guiding clients with integrity, skill, compassion, presence and trauma-awareness.
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Level I Certification – a treatment modality that understands the body-brain connection in trauma through the lens of neuroscience. Its focus is on both the psychological and physical manifestations of trauma and this focus results in more integrated healing.
MA, Somatic Psychotherapy from California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS).
Over 15 years experience as a meditation practitioner and facilitator in the Insight/Vipassana tradition.
Extensive work with clients navigating sexuality and relationship issues, spiritual inquiry, complex trauma, chronic illness, eating disorders and chronic pain.
Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with the Oregon Board of Licensed Professional Counselors and Therapists. License #C4323 (License currently on hold while living around the world).
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Level I Certification – the study of how language (body language and internal and external speech) shape our belief systems which shape how we are in the world. NLP provides tools to move towards what we want and helps get in touch with what keeps us from getting there.
Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification 1-Year Intensive Coaching Training with Layla Martin and The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality.
Trained in both conventional and body-oriented approaches to psychotherapy and coaching. These therapeutic methods address the crucial role of the body in the structure and process of the psyche. Attachment theory is a strong foundation from which I orient towards all of the work I offer.